Comments on: Can I Help You?

By: Strocel.com | Letting Go and Accepting Help

Strocel.com | Letting Go and Accepting Help — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 13:02:11 +0000

[...] a lot of work, trying to get better at letting go. The good news is that it does get easier. As I accept help that’s offered, and see that the world does not in fact fall apart when I do, I don’t find myself [...]

By: victoria

victoria — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 03:16:09 +0000

This is interesting amber- I have become a lot more acpeting of help in recent times with alex i was like NO i can do it!

Now I feel that it takes a village to raise a child and allwoing my community members to help out is more than just the help- when we help others it starts to increase our face time and that increases our involvement with each other and their abilty to reach out to others- holding a door might seem like a small thing- but a random act of kindess is waht it starts with!

Plus i think our kids are so dang cute that people are drawn to them! lol

By: Kirsten

Kirsten — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 04:35:52 +0000

I try to consider it a personal growth exercise to say “Yes, thank you, that would be great!” It’s not easy for me, although the more I practice, the easier it gets. I agree with the above comment, a lot of people are genuinely interested in helping, it makes them happy to do so. Women whose kids are older but who still remember how much there was to juggle in those early days, they especially love to help.

My idea is this. I say yes. I say thanks. I smile and demonstrate that the help that is being given is making that moment of my life easier (assuming it is, of course). And then, when I’m that mom of older kids, or even much older kids, or (possibly faraway) grandkids? I will be the one offering young, tired-looking moms that extra helping hand, whenever I can.

Second phase of personal growth, still a work in progress but getting better all the time: actually uttering the words, “could I have a hand?”

By: CJ

CJ — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 15:33:01 +0000

I always have trouble asking OTHER people for help, but I am the first to jump on the Partner if she isn’t helping me when I need it. Irony at its best!

By: Lady M

Lady M — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 07:44:41 +0000

What I’ve been learning lately (especially from gathering support for a sick colleague) is that people really want to help. I’m not generally of the wanting-help nature, so it’s constantly surprising me and making me realize that it makes them feel good to help. Wins all around.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 04:31:06 +0000

I think it is great to accept help whenever and whereever it is offered. As a mom, a wife and women in general, we tend to take on so much that, having a helping hand is really nice sometimes…if we let it. Besides, I wipe alot of buts and pick up alot of crap off floors and wash alot of clothes and cook alot of meals, so if someone is offering me a hand, I am gonna darn well take it and say thank you. My grandpa always used to say – never look a gift horse in the mouth!

By: pomomama aka ebbandflo

pomomama aka ebbandflo — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:00:12 +0000

hmmm? curious (and i’m directing this at myself as your post has got me thinking inwardly)

at first read i thought, stick to your guns and accept help on your terms!

and then (partly cos of some discipline/behavioural issues ongoing right now) i thought, accept graciously and model positive behaviour to your child. maybe it’s a good idea to show that accepting help is A Good Thing for both sons (might train them out of the manly ‘never asking for directions’ thing) and daughters (no more Superwoman – we cannot do everything)

i have no idea! i’ll try both and thoroughly confuse the populace