For some time now, I’ve been running a monthly series on that’s all about creating positive routines. Each month I set one goal with the aim creating a more purpose-filled life. If you’d like to join in and take some steps to create better rhythms and routines in your own life, I’d love to hear how you’re doing it.
Last Month’s Recap
In April, I committed to doing more handcrafts. Because, as it turns out, I really like making stuff. Unfortunately, I totally failed in this goal. I didn’t start a new knitting project, and I didn’t sew anything. Some months are like that. I’m choosing not to dwell on it.
Creating a Routine for May
Just yesterday, I got a less-than-complimentary email from a reader criticizing my work as editor of VancouverMom.ca. When I attempted to respond in a professional and polite manner, the email bounced. This left me feeling both attacked and misunderstood, with no way of communicating. I understand that negative responses are par for the course anytime you put yourself out there, but still, it stings. It stings a lot. As I wallowed and fixated on what I wanted to say, it occurred to me that I was investing a lot of energy into what someone else – a perfect stranger, at that – thought of me.
For May, I’ve decided that I’d like to spend less time worrying about what other people think of me, and more time trying to live a life that actually works for me. To that end, here’s my goal:
- Journal every evening, using a pen and paper, listing what I did that day that fulfilled me, and what I’d like to do differently tomorrow.
My hope is that by taking the time to reflect on what is and isn’t working for me, I’ll have a better picture of where to invest my energy, instead of trying to make people like me. Because, truthfully, trying to make everyone happy is an exercise in futility and frustration.
Start With Small Changes
One thing I’ve learned on my journey towards a more purpose-driven life is that change happens best in small, bite-sized pieces. That’s why I’m once again choosing something that should take me only a few minutes a day. I may be busy, but I can find a few minutes a day to build a better life. I invite you to take on some small changes as well. What could you do to improve your daily rhythm or overall mood? And, what’s holding you back from doing it? Create a new routine, and leave a comment so that we can cheer each other on!