Comments on: Finding My Tribe http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/ Keeping it real in the suburbs Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:10:18 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: » Crafting my Life Manifesto Strocel.com http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43154 » Crafting my Life Manifesto Strocel.com Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:01:25 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43154 [...] Thursday, and so I’m Crafting my Life! Last week I wrote about tribes, and how I’ve found mine. This week I am going to make a statement about what I stand for, [...] [...] Thursday, and so I’m Crafting my Life! Last week I wrote about tribes, and how I’ve found mine. This week I am going to make a statement about what I stand for, [...]

]]> By: Lady M http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43065 Lady M Sat, 31 Oct 2009 06:53:58 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43065 Our tribe was made of dancers for so long, and we hit an inflection point in everyone's lives about two years ago - babies, weddings, moves for work, moves for grad school - that it felt like we lost touch with everyone. Now, a semblance of that life is reforming, with the plus that I have bloggy friends now too! .-= Lady M´s last post ..<a href="http://www.empress-m.com/2009/10/i-think-ive-written-this-post-before.html" rel="nofollow">I Think I’ve Written This Post Before</a> =-. Our tribe was made of dancers for so long, and we hit an inflection point in everyone’s lives about two years ago – babies, weddings, moves for work, moves for grad school – that it felt like we lost touch with everyone. Now, a semblance of that life is reforming, with the plus that I have bloggy friends now too!
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]]> By: Francesca http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43064 Francesca Sat, 31 Oct 2009 06:44:58 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43064 I'm still not sure about this Internet tribe business, to be honest. I want to believe it, but I've recently been aware of many tribal wars that just make me very sad. .-= Francesca´s last post ..<a href="http://www.fuoriborgo.com/fuoriborgo/2009/10/on-halloween.html" rel="nofollow">On Halloween</a> =-. I’m still not sure about this Internet tribe business, to be honest. I want to believe it, but I’ve recently been aware of many tribal wars that just make me very sad.
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]]> By: Maria @ Conversations with Moms http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43056 Maria @ Conversations with Moms Fri, 30 Oct 2009 22:52:14 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43056 I found that my blog goes through different evolutions as I go through different stages in my life. Some people stay around and I appreciate every one of them but some do choose to move on. I understand what you mean by the people who stay are your tribe. I hope I haven't been voted off your tribe yet. LOL. I found that my blog goes through different evolutions as I go through different stages in my life. Some people stay around and I appreciate every one of them but some do choose to move on. I understand what you mean by the people who stay are your tribe.

I hope I haven’t been voted off your tribe yet. LOL.

]]> By: TheFeministBreeder http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43032 TheFeministBreeder Fri, 30 Oct 2009 20:02:49 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43032 I totally know what you mean. There are so many times where I just let loose and write exactly what I'm thinking without any filter whatsoever, hit "post" and just wait for the mudslinging to begin. But shockingly those are usually the posts I get the most support for. Yet when I'm trying really hard to be something I think is more popular or acceptable, that usually goes over like a lead balloon. So now I'm trying to be comfortable in my own skin, and with my own thoughts/words. The thing that I'm starting to realize is 1.) You cannot be liked by everybody and 2.) You may as well be yourself and see who likes you for who you really are. Easier said than done, but that's where I'm at with it. .-= TheFeministBreeder´s last post ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/mByr/~3/u3j4BG8y2Mk/wordless-wednesday-1.html" rel="nofollow">Wordless Wednesday</a> =-. I totally know what you mean. There are so many times where I just let loose and write exactly what I’m thinking without any filter whatsoever, hit “post” and just wait for the mudslinging to begin. But shockingly those are usually the posts I get the most support for. Yet when I’m trying really hard to be something I think is more popular or acceptable, that usually goes over like a lead balloon.

So now I’m trying to be comfortable in my own skin, and with my own thoughts/words. The thing that I’m starting to realize is 1.) You cannot be liked by everybody and 2.) You may as well be yourself and see who likes you for who you really are.

Easier said than done, but that’s where I’m at with it.
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]]> By: Carrie http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43029 Carrie Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:36:45 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43029 I can totally relate. Sometimes I wonder where my steller "friend making" skills from childhood went. As an adult I've found that you end up alienating your "friends" through such silly issues. If we could all just be true to ourselves and be confident in ourselves I think it would make life so much easier. All the posturing and pretending can really grate on you... That said, I'm not big on confrontation either. I will say and do things to make others happy because in the long run, it's easier. Where am I going with this...oh well. Amber, I'd be happy to be part of your tribe, if you'll have me. I promise to accept you for who you are if you can do the same :) .-= Carrie´s last post ..<a href="http://rogoclan.blogspot.com/2009/10/partying-chuckie-cheese-style.html" rel="nofollow">Partying Chuck E Cheese-style</a> =-. I can totally relate. Sometimes I wonder where my steller “friend making” skills from childhood went.

As an adult I’ve found that you end up alienating your “friends” through such silly issues. If we could all just be true to ourselves and be confident in ourselves I think it would make life so much easier. All the posturing and pretending can really grate on you…

That said, I’m not big on confrontation either. I will say and do things to make others happy because in the long run, it’s easier.

Where am I going with this…oh well. Amber, I’d be happy to be part of your tribe, if you’ll have me. I promise to accept you for who you are if you can do the same :)
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]]> By: *pol http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43027 *pol Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:47:43 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43027 Oh ya. And I am totally getting what Marilyn says. I have never been good at faking it either. Brutally honest 100% of the time, or just keeping my mouth shut to contain the damage! I have always been jealous of my sister's ability to please people and be loved by everyone... she has a sparkly positive vibe that you just feel GOOD being near! So she gets invited to things and always has lots of friends and gets the promotions quickly. I KNOW she finds it exhausting sometimes and is afraid that people won't really like her if they find out she is goofy and not as confident as she looks. She frets at not being accepted wholeheartedly. I'm sadly used to it.... but still confused by it. I don't know what I project. But I don't think anyone DISlikes me... I don't think so anyways... .-= *pol´s last post ..<a href="http://pol-loves.blogspot.com/2009/10/this-one-is-for-amber.html" rel="nofollow">This one is for Amber</a> =-. Oh ya. And I am totally getting what Marilyn says. I have never been good at faking it either. Brutally honest 100% of the time, or just keeping my mouth shut to contain the damage!

I have always been jealous of my sister’s ability to please people and be loved by everyone… she has a sparkly positive vibe that you just feel GOOD being near! So she gets invited to things and always has lots of friends and gets the promotions quickly. I KNOW she finds it exhausting sometimes and is afraid that people won’t really like her if they find out she is goofy and not as confident as she looks. She frets at not being accepted wholeheartedly.

I’m sadly used to it…. but still confused by it.

I don’t know what I project. But I don’t think anyone DISlikes me… I don’t think so anyways…
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]]> By: *pol http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43026 *pol Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:35:39 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43026 Well, I go to my favoutire personal development/financial blog and then click on the links of the post replies that say the most to me. And ocassionally that leads me to a like-minded person.... I think you and I have a lot of similar values! You may be in a slightly different stage of motherhood than me, but you are farther ahead of the game because you are putting yourself out there for support and ideas! I have more trouble finding like-minded people face-to-face. My best friends are the ones I made in highschool (20+ years ago), and my sister. And these people may not really have that much in common with me RIGHT NOW except all the history we have shared. We are not like minded, and have completely different lives. .-= *pol´s last post ..<a href="http://pol-loves.blogspot.com/2009/10/this-one-is-for-amber.html" rel="nofollow">This one is for Amber</a> =-. Well, I go to my favoutire personal development/financial blog and then click on the links of the post replies that say the most to me. And ocassionally that leads me to a like-minded person…. I think you and I have a lot of similar values!
You may be in a slightly different stage of motherhood than me, but you are farther ahead of the game because you are putting yourself out there for support and ideas!
I have more trouble finding like-minded people face-to-face. My best friends are the ones I made in highschool (20+ years ago), and my sister. And these people may not really have that much in common with me RIGHT NOW except all the history we have shared. We are not like minded, and have completely different lives.
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]]> By: Jeanne http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43022 Jeanne Fri, 30 Oct 2009 14:00:16 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43022 This is how it's been for me... think about what your tribe does for you: support, belief, and friendship, to name a few. Once I figured out that I could find these qualities in myself, my "external" tribe fell into place, and is growing every day :) Great post! This is how it’s been for me… think about what your tribe does for you: support, belief, and friendship, to name a few. Once I figured out that I could find these qualities in myself, my “external” tribe fell into place, and is growing every day :) Great post!

]]> By: Adventures In Babywearing http://www.strocel.com/finding-my-tribe/comment-page-1/#comment-43020 Adventures In Babywearing Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:53:54 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=6328#comment-43020 There's nothing like when you connect with that kindred spirit. Steph There’s nothing like when you connect with that kindred spirit.

Steph

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