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As I get older, I feel the relentless march of time more keenly. With each passing year, it becomes more and more clear to me that there are certain things in this life that I just won’t do – or just can’t do. Any shot I had of competing in the Olympics is long gone. Ditto my chances of becoming an astronaut. They’re sending fewer and fewer people into space these days, the likelihood they’d pluck a mom in her mid-30s from suburban Canada for a comeback tour on the shuttle is pretty low. My choices are narrowing as I get older.
I tell my children that they can do anything, and be anything. At three and six years old, this is still (mostly) true for them. I want to tell them something more, too, but I know they wouldn’t understand. They’re simply too young. I want to say, “That thing that you want? Go after it. That thing that you don’t enjoy? Don’t do it. Life is too short to spend a single moment walking down the wrong path.”
Many of us spend a good portion of our lives doing things that we don’t enjoy. These are the things that don’t work for us, but we think others expect us to do. They’re the things that we thought we wanted, but when we tried them we discovered maybe we really didn’t. They’re the obligations that sap our energy and take up all our time but don’t really enhance our lives. All of us have them, if we stop to think hard enough. And yet we keep doing them, because we feel as if we should, or we don’t want to be quitters, or we worry that if we don’t, no one will. And maybe some or all of these things are true.
As I get older, I’m coming to understand that I only have so much time to play with, here. I simply don’t have the luxury of wasting the time I do have doing things that detract from my life. I don’t want to spend another moment walking down the wrong path out of a misguided sense of obligation. It’s time to seize that thing I want and do it … and then discard it if I discover it’s not right for me, and move on to the next thing. This is how I will live with purpose and intention, and create a life that works for me.
It may be true that there are certain things I’m never going to pull off in this life. But there are just as many things that I still can pull off, if I put my mind to it. If I’m going to make those things happen, I’m going to need to focus my energies. I’m going to need to learn to accept help more, and say no more when something doesn’t work for me. I’m going to need to practice sovereignty and I’m going to need to pause and reflect and ask myself how things are for me.
There’s simply not a moment to waste doing anything else.
How do you decide when something isn’t enhancing your life? How do you create boundaries around that, and give yourself permission to let things go? And when did you realize you were likely never going to become a Rockette, after all? I’d love to hear your thoughts!