Comments on: On Asking for What You Want http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/ Keeping it real in the suburbs Sat, 11 Feb 2012 00:18:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: » Toddlers Don’t Do Time Management Strocel.com http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-46276 » Toddlers Don’t Do Time Management Strocel.com Mon, 22 Feb 2010 22:30:54 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-46276 [...] Ask for help. If you need your partner to take the kids for a few hours, ask. Be clear and respectful about your needs. If you’re not, no one is going to know about them. It can be hard to vocalize what it is you want, but it really beats not asking, not getting your needs met and feeling bitter. [...] [...] Ask for help. If you need your partner to take the kids for a few hours, ask. Be clear and respectful about your needs. If you’re not, no one is going to know about them. It can be hard to vocalize what it is you want, but it really beats not asking, not getting your needs met and feeling bitter. [...]

]]> By: Jessica - This is Worthwhile http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45444 Jessica - This is Worthwhile Fri, 29 Jan 2010 21:15:32 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45444 This seems easy on paper, doesn't it? Like some of your other commenters my husband doesn't always respond well. He tries, but I know he resents me asking (especially when it's back related - my back pain, that is). Like, can you change Hollis' diapers today because I can't lift him on the changing table and I'd really like a break for a day, sort of thing. It's weird, bigger things I ask for are graciously accommodated. Regardless, I'm never afraid of asking, despite the mild conflict that ensues or my own frustration from rejection because I'm a firm believer in It Doesn't Hurt to Ask. Having said that, I'm getting a whole "Week Off" at the end of February because I asked to not go on a trip to Boston with Hollis and Anthony because I wanted some alone time and the idea was immediately embraced and supported. Gotta take the good with the bad, right? Terrific post :) .-= Jessica - This is Worthwhile´s last post ..<a href="http://thisisworthwhile.blogspot.com/2009/12/worthwhile-post-2-globe-trotting-in.html" rel="nofollow">A worthwhile post #2: Globe Trotting In Heels</a> =-. This seems easy on paper, doesn’t it? Like some of your other commenters my husband doesn’t always respond well. He tries, but I know he resents me asking (especially when it’s back related – my back pain, that is). Like, can you change Hollis’ diapers today because I can’t lift him on the changing table and I’d really like a break for a day, sort of thing.

It’s weird, bigger things I ask for are graciously accommodated.

Regardless, I’m never afraid of asking, despite the mild conflict that ensues or my own frustration from rejection because I’m a firm believer in It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask.

Having said that, I’m getting a whole “Week Off” at the end of February because I asked to not go on a trip to Boston with Hollis and Anthony because I wanted some alone time and the idea was immediately embraced and supported.

Gotta take the good with the bad, right?

Terrific post :)
.-= Jessica – This is Worthwhile´s last post ..A worthwhile post #2: Globe Trotting In Heels =-.

]]> By: » Re-evaluating Your Dreams and Desires Strocel.com http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45416 » Re-evaluating Your Dreams and Desires Strocel.com Fri, 29 Jan 2010 02:29:02 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45416 [...] weeks I wrote about figuring out what you want, the practicalities of goal-setting and the value of asking for what you want. Today I’ll talk a little bit about re-evaluating your dreams and [...] [...] weeks I wrote about figuring out what you want, the practicalities of goal-setting and the value of asking for what you want. Today I’ll talk a little bit about re-evaluating your dreams and [...]

]]> By: BluebirdMama aka @childbearing http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45398 BluebirdMama aka @childbearing Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:49:33 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45398 Hmmm...I seem to be a hinter. Not quite expecting my husband to guess because he knows me so well but also not coming right out and asking. It's so true that I have to work on this in my marriage and that it would work wonders outside the house too. Afterall, I'll never win the lottery if I don't buy a ticket. .-= BluebirdMama aka @childbearing´s last post ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Bluebirdmamacom/~3/NeM9Q1NgWyY/" rel="nofollow">Independent Thinker</a> =-. Hmmm…I seem to be a hinter. Not quite expecting my husband to guess because he knows me so well but also not coming right out and asking.

It’s so true that I have to work on this in my marriage and that it would work wonders outside the house too. Afterall, I’ll never win the lottery if I don’t buy a ticket.
.-= BluebirdMama aka @childbearing´s last post ..Independent Thinker =-.

]]> By: What’s Happening Wednesday | Backyard Mama http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45359 What’s Happening Wednesday | Backyard Mama Wed, 27 Jan 2010 12:54:00 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45359 [...] I am looking forward to reading about asking for what you want and going for it at this link up over on strocel.com. [...] [...] I am looking forward to reading about asking for what you want and going for it at this link up over on strocel.com. [...]

]]> By: Christine LaRocque http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45229 Christine LaRocque Sat, 23 Jan 2010 02:24:35 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45229 What a great post, as usual your thoughts really resonate with me, specifically as I work on my own project called "finding me." I've only just started to blog about my journey, but what you've written about here is one part of it. I often know what I want, what I expect, but I am not very good about voicing it. Most particularly to my husband. It's silly really but, as you mention, I simply expect him to know. This usually leads to disappointment. It's not fun and mostly my fault, but a part of me wishes that after 10 years of marriage that he would just know. Your point about communicating what I want more often is well taken. Question is, how does one do that with their husband without being overly naggy or overbearing? I suspect if I started to be more clear, it might come as a shock :-). What a great post, as usual your thoughts really resonate with me, specifically as I work on my own project called “finding me.” I’ve only just started to blog about my journey, but what you’ve written about here is one part of it. I often know what I want, what I expect, but I am not very good about voicing it. Most particularly to my husband. It’s silly really but, as you mention, I simply expect him to know. This usually leads to disappointment. It’s not fun and mostly my fault, but a part of me wishes that after 10 years of marriage that he would just know. Your point about communicating what I want more often is well taken. Question is, how does one do that with their husband without being overly naggy or overbearing? I suspect if I started to be more clear, it might come as a shock :-) .

]]> By: Stacy http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45216 Stacy Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:51:53 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45216 hi Amber, it's Stacy the LLLL in Maple Ridge :) Anyways I own a maternity/nursing store in Maple Ridge, not sure if you knew that or not. Anyways, I was wondering if you ever did presentations/talks to groups? I posted a link to your blog on my facebook page, and have had a couple people interested in being able to chat with you about Maternity Leave etc. Let me know! hi Amber, it’s Stacy the LLLL in Maple Ridge :) Anyways I own a maternity/nursing store in Maple Ridge, not sure if you knew that or not. Anyways, I was wondering if you ever did presentations/talks to groups? I posted a link to your blog on my facebook page, and have had a couple people interested in being able to chat with you about Maternity Leave etc. Let me know!

]]> By: Francesca http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45203 Francesca Fri, 22 Jan 2010 11:37:20 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45203 Huge ongoing struggle ... .-= Francesca´s last post ..<a href="http://www.fuoriborgo.com/fuoriborgo/2010/01/french-winter-idees.html" rel="nofollow">Nouveau French winter idées</a> =-. Huge ongoing struggle …
.-= Francesca´s last post ..Nouveau French winter idées =-.

]]> By: Mel http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45201 Mel Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:40:19 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45201 You know that I do sing from the same hymn sheet. I didn't used to but I have applied this now (and though I have to remind myself sometimes) I find it so much easier what I want and need then waiting for mind reading to occur. .-= Mel´s last post ..<a href="http://memyselfandotherthings.wordpress.com/2010/01/21/day-20/" rel="nofollow">Day 20</a> =-. You know that I do sing from the same hymn sheet. I didn’t used to but I have applied this now (and though I have to remind myself sometimes) I find it so much easier what I want and need then waiting for mind reading to occur.
.-= Mel´s last post ..Day 20 =-.

]]> By: Lady M http://www.strocel.com/on-asking-for-what-you-want/#comment-45197 Lady M Fri, 22 Jan 2010 07:29:50 +0000 http://www.strocel.com/?p=7181#comment-45197 Similar to what Capital Mom said - the tricky part is having to figure out what I really, really want. .-= Lady M´s last post ..<a href="http://www.empress-m.com/2010/01/shoes-friends-memories-haiti.html" rel="nofollow">Shoes, Friends, Memories, Haiti</a> =-. Similar to what Capital Mom said – the tricky part is having to figure out what I really, really want.
.-= Lady M´s last post ..Shoes, Friends, Memories, Haiti =-.

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