I don’t know how you do it.
People say this to me a lot. Like, several times a week, at least. I’m never really sure whether to take it as a compliment (as in, look at you, rocking it!) or a gentle criticism (as in, my friends and family really wish I had more time for them). When I hear it, I think that I must be giving the wrong impression. I must make it look as if I’m doing more than I am, or that I’m doing it all really well. I must not be sharing the whole truth, because I feel like I drop a lot of balls and let a lot of things slide.
There’s this inspirational quote that I found on Pinterest that I have fallen in love with. It’s from Steven Furtick, who Google tells me is a pastor in the US. But that’s really beside the point. What’s on point is that these words really resonate with me:
“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
~ Steven Furtick
Here’s the truth: I have too much on my plate. It’s not even fun at this point, and I’m working hard to restore a sense of equilibrium in my life. I will get there. In the meantime, comments about how I do so much hit me in a sore spot, because I would like to be doing a whole lot less. At the same time, I can see that people who feel they should be doing more see that I have all these balls in the air and they think they should be somehow keeping up. We’re all looking at other people, who seem to be doing it better than we are, and we’re not seeing that they’re struggling, too.
In the interests of keeping it real, I’d like to tell you some of the things that I haven’t done recently:
- Vacuum. My carpets are crying out for a good cleaning, and I will totally get around to it … eventually.
- Register Jacob for a spring class. The kid is constantly asking to go back to preschool basketball or take music class, and I can’t pull it together to actually find a class and sign him up.
- Read other people’s blogs. I really want to do more of this, so much I can taste it, but I also need to sleep sometime. Speaking of which …
- Get enough sleep. I’m squeaking by on less than seven hours most nights, which is not enough to keep me at my cheerful best.
- Sew with Hannah. The kid really, really wants to learn how to make a cushion. I have the materials, but I haven’t found the time.
- Knit. Just last week I finally finished the socks that were meant as a Christmas gift for my mother. Luckily her birthday’s coming up soon.
- Write. Okay, so I do write every day, but there are lots of things I’d like to be writing that I just can’t seem to find the time for.
- Yoga. For two weeks I was getting up in the morning to do yoga, but that fell by the wayside once the sleep deprivation reached critical levels.
If you see someone who’s doing a lot, the odds are good they’re letting something else go. I guess the question each of us needs to answer for ourselves is what we’re willing to let go of, what we’re not willing to let go of, and how we can make that work in our lives. Mine is a work in progress, but I believe that a better balance exists, and I’m committed to finding it.
What about you? What do you let slide, that you’d rather not? How do you find balance and set priorities? And do you think that equilibrium is even possible when you have a life and a job and kids and all that jazz? I’d love to hear your thoughts!