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» Inherited Anxiety Strocel.com — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 13:01:31 +0000

[...] always been an anxious person, for as long as I can remember. Even as a kid I was a perfectionist, overly invested in every little thing and highly attached to the outcome of whatever it was that I was doing. I [...]

By: TheFeministBreeder

TheFeministBreeder — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 04:43:17 +0000

Haa haa.. Advice? Not from me! Not from the lady who writes to STRANGERS on TWITTER begging them not to have an unnecessary cesarean! Talk about being invested… it’s like a nervous tick I have.

People constantly ask me “why the F do you even care?” I don’t know! I wish I could shut it off!

If you find a way to, you can bottle that and sell it, and I’ll be your best customer.
.-= TheFeministBreeder´s last post ..Do You See What I See? =-.

By: Lady M

Lady M — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:23:46 +0000

This is probably not useful commentary, but here goes anyway.

You can tell yourself that Steven Cousins (former British National Champion) picked up Scott Hamilton’s broom. He toured with Stars on Ice for years and loved being the “prop guy,” so he usually did the prop drop offs and pick ups for other skaters like Scott.

In Star Wars Episode 1, the Jedi are always discarding their swooshy outer robes before battle so that they don’t get tangled during the fights. I always wondered – do they ever get the robes back? Do the junior soldiers get sent to search for them?
.-= Lady M´s last post ..He Said It, Not Me =-.

By: Johanne

Johanne — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:03:16 +0000

You are not alone.
Hi, my name is Johanne, and I’m overly invested.

I’m kind of just like you, but in a different way… if that makes sense? I get overly invested in OTHER’S lives, all the time. I see a commercial on MADD and a baby crying, prompting that little Emily’s mother was one of the passengers? I’m crying about it for 3 days. NOT while I’m pregnant or PMS – then it’s for 7 days. I read about so and so in a book having a fight? Can’t sleep anymore until I reach the point where they make up. I think back on when I was about 4 and my mom bought me a new coat, but the zipper was on the boy’s side, so I cried and said I wanted a girl’s coat. I was 4! I can’t be rational at 4. My mom gave it to my cousin and got me a new coat, but I feel so guilty about it and worry that I totally hurt her feelings of the beautiful new coat she had gotten me.

Argh!

Lemme know if you find out how to turn it off.
.-= Johanne´s last post ..Merry Christmas to You Card (Digital) =-.

By: Francesca

Francesca — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 05:12:21 +0000

I spent years fighting against the uncertainty of pregnancies outcome. Now, there are not many undertainties that worry me. Except, what did you end up doing with your 73 cucumbers:)? .-= Francesca´s last post ..Garden planning & issues =-.

By: Lauralee

Lauralee — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 23:50:59 +0000

I have no real idea how to overcome this. I do it as well. Holes or incongruities bother me endlessly. FOR YEARS. Unanswered questions, especially in movies or tv shoes. Don’t those have professional editing teams?

For instance, on HOUSE, House had a friend/private detective. And then one episode, he just stopped showing up. What is that? Why? Couldn’t they write him off somehow? Something? Just, he’s just not there the next episode?

So clearly, I have no idea how to stop your problem because I can’t stop mine.
.-= Lauralee´s last post ..SAHM Triumph: Empty Laundry Basekts =-.

By: *pol

*pol — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 22:22:34 +0000

I am not into the spoiling so much as the planning. I am a planner, I figure “how do you know if you’ve made it to the destination, unless you have a map?” Checking things off the great life list is fantastic!

BUT that having been said, I never suspected my plan to be a mother would force me to change my approach to all other plans. Don’t get me wrong, I still plan to ride a motorcycle down the oregeon coast in my 50s with my husband… But long term dreams notwithstanding, I found out that I can plan not a single thing around how my children are going to be! No matter how many sweet stories I read them, they may not grow up loving to read, no matter how many craft supplies I get, they will make their own ideas from them, not mine…. and then there are the other things that kids throw in… the sicknesses and injuries and a learning disability for good measure! I wasn’t planning on any of those and it infuriates me that I can’t look ahead to see the outcome… it drives me CRAZY!

Another thing they taught me (which is the only way my control-freak self can deal with this loss of control) is that the outcome is always NOW! So as long as I am in the NOW, and present, then the outcome is assured.

There is that saying that I am probably brutalizing….
“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the present.”

My personality balks at this, but accepting the truth in it has helped me release my grip on the less important stuff.
.-= *pol´s last post ..I have an idea! =-.

By: Summer

Summer — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:48:31 +0000

I wish I knew the secret answer. I do the same thing, read the last chapter first and search for spoilers before I watch the movie. I have to know the end before i’ll jump into the beginning.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:42:45 +0000

I am right there with you. I was out of work for over a year, and during that time I was obsessed to the point of depression about “how it was all going to turn out.” Of course it all turned out fine — I finally did get a good job again — but I never did succeed in gaining perspective on my own situation until I had that job offer.

I should have known better, though; I had been through it all before. When I was just out of college it took me an entire year of working multiple jobs and multiple unpaid internships to land that first job, and I was so depressed. But then one day, you just wake up and there’s a job offer and your life changes overnight. You have to do all of that legwork, sure, but you can never see success coming until it’s already there.

I’m sure this isn’t much help, but try and look back over your life and your career, and think about times you felt as you do now. Didn’t it all work out in the end? And could you have ever seen it coming? Be it a book deal, a blogging gig, or that first magazine assignment — whatever it is you’re hoping for — it’s not going to announce itself in advance. All you can do is keep on doing what you’re doing (you seem to be on the right track), and one day — knock, knock — it will be there at your front door.

In the meantime, crafting works for me!
.-= Sarah´s last post ..Now we are six =-.

By: Christal

Christal — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:37:00 +0000

O.k the "more zen and quickly" made me laugh out loud! I too am slightly obsessive about life's details but have mostly thought of it as a positive trait and heres why. I don't miss much of what's going on around me and can often predict outcomes of conversations, suspence thrillers, and sometimes even events.I care, I mean REALLY care way too much about everything but this includes everyone as well. If someone is even the littlest bit perturbed I help fix them weather they want help or not.I'm a tag tucker and a lint picker. If I'm in a line up and someone has a tag sticking out or a big ugly piece of something or other stuck to them I pick it off, weather i know them of not. So although being overly invested can have its downside I prefer to think of it as my gift to humanity.