Comments on: Stay at Home Mom

By: Strocel.com | I’m Amber, and I’m a Dreamer

Strocel.com | I’m Amber, and I’m a Dreamer — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 13:01:38 +0000

[...] social situations. When someone asks what I do, how do I answer? I could say that I’m a stay-at-home mom, and that’s partly true. I could say that I’m an aspiring book author, and that’s [...]

By: Johanne

Johanne — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 17:39:58 +0000

Good for you! I also made that decision literally 2 weeks before my return to work. Although, unlike you, I didn’t have a career really… but still Haven’t regretted it since!

I understand what you mean about labelling it as an unemployed engineer. For me, the months and weeks leading up to my return to work were stressful and anxious. I knew it was in a little while, that I still had time – but there was this deadline looming in the distance, a “this shall end”. The second that I officially told my boss I wasn’t coming back, and let the daycare know… it was like a liberation. I was a SAHM. That’s it, and that’s all. I could free my mind from all the unfocused work thoughts, and just be with DD. The anxiety just melted away!

When I was on the plane coming back from Ireland in July, I had to write in Occupation on my custom form. I proudly wrote “Stay-at-home Mom”, and was almost beaming when I showed it to the guard. LOL I truly believe that this is what I want to do, where I should be, what’s best for my daughter, and am happy to embrace it fully!
(disclaimer: and by this, I don’t mean it’s best for EVERYONE. I’m talking about ME. Thank you. )
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By: Brie

Brie — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 00:23:16 +0000

You read my mind. I have been thinking about a post on the subject of becoming a stay at home mom but had yet to write it. Now I don’t have to because not only are you a writer but you are also a mind reader.
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By: Katie

Katie — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 23:05:00 +0000

tell ppl you're a domestic engineer !

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 14:20:44 +0000

Embracing your decision to stay home is magical. Because the girls are with me most of the time and have big ears now, I have worked very hard to not down play my role as their mom who stays at home. Never for a second do I not value my role in our house, their lives, or the role I support my husband with. Without me, this whole operation would collapse…of that I am completely aware. To those out there who just can’t seem to grasp just how hard and important being at home with your children is, I just let them be. I consider them just not as fortunate as I am to be able to stay home with my girls. Lucky you and I…we get all the magic of our children’s youth to carry with us forever. And, you and I both know just how smart, funny, talented, educated we are….and our children know it too – and they will be better people for having us raise them full time.
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By: Meagan Francis

Meagan Francis — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 13:38:24 +0000

It’s so universal, I think, how we wish for a way to make whatever it is we’re doing sound more impressive than what it is, even if we’re doing just what we want to be doing. It doesn’t seem like enough, somehow, to be mothering and writing, or it seems frivolous or irresponsible or just plain boring.

I think the people who really matter will listen long enough to find out who you ARE instead of just “what you do” and those who don’t bother, don’t matter.
Meagan Francis´s last post ..It’s OK to be a boring grown-up.

By: Francesca

Francesca — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 08:19:08 +0000

I totally understand your feelings, I’ve lived with them, with that “un”, for my whole entire adult life. Having always done everything the wrong way around, (worked when my peers were in college, gone to college when they were persuing carreers, nursed my children when fellow anthropologists were doing field research, moved my family to the country to use sickle and hoe instead of discussing baby bach tapes …) I always had to excuse myself for what I was. It’s because of a whole idea of women’s role in society that I think has more to do with some bad results of feminism than with actual socioeconomics. I hope to be able to raise my daughter to feel proud of the choices she’ll make as a woman, disregarding the pressure society puts on us women.
Nice meeting an engineer and mom and an aspiring writer, Amber, you’re a woman with a very rich life.
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By: Lady M

Lady M — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 04:21:57 +0000

Actually, you ARE a writer. You may not be paid for it right now, but you are a writer already.

In case you’re interested, you might check out Mir’s column about being a freelance writer at Work It, Mom. She’s written about finding work in past posts.

http://www.workitmom.com/bloggers/corneredoffice/
Lady M´s last post ..On Your Mark

By: Maria@Conversations with Moms

Maria@Conversations with Moms — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 03:30:01 +0000

I understand why you might be feeling this but don’t worry so much about what others are perceiving. What’s important is that right now your able to give your children more attention and nurturing. To them, you are the world.

By: Allison

Allison — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 23:29:45 +0000

p.s,. is that YOUR Grampa commenting? What a great Grampa!
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