Natrel Baboo Toddler Milk Awakens my Inner Lactivist

I write about breastfeeding much less than I used to, probably because I’m not doing it anymore myself. Since my son Jacob weaned nearly a year ago, I don’t spend as much time thinking about it as when it was part of my daily reality. This doesn’t mean, however, that I’ve turned in my lactivist card. Occasionally, I still encounter something that makes my inner breastfeeding mama stand up and take notice. This happened to me recently when I was walking through my local grocery store, and I came across a new product on the shelves called Natrel Baboo.

Natrel Baboo is a dairy product that claims to be specifically designed for toddlers aged 12-24 months. It’s supposedly easier for toddlers to digest than cow’s milk. It’s sold in tetra paks and ultra high temperature pasteurized, so while it says that it contains fresh milk and no preservatives, it does not require refrigeration. The idea is that Natrel Baboo will somehow ease the weaning process for a toddler, helping them to transition more easily from breast milk or formula to cow’s milk. Right now it’s 30 cents off at the Thrifty Foods near my house, so … score?

Baboo from Natrel

Like I said, the product caught my eye, so I had to check it out more closely. Specifically, I wanted to see what was in this stuff, anyway. But before I got to the ingredients, I got to the marketing message on the back. This sentence extolling Natrel Baboo’s virtues caught my eye:

It is easy to digest because its milk protein closely matches breast milk.

Do you want to know how to irritate a lactivist? Claim that a product which lists “reconstituted ultrafiltered milk permeate” as the first ingredient closely matches breast milk. That really gets our goat. It’s simply not possible to manufacture something that closely matches breast milk. Formula companies do their very best to try, and I commend their efforts to ensure that babies who aren’t exclusively breastfed are receiving the best possible nutrition. But those same formula companies are excluded from making these sorts of claims under the WHO Code of Marketing of Breast-milk Substitutes. Natrel Baboo can get away with it, because it is intended for toddlers, who are not covered under the code.

A milk product I saw at the grocery store

There’s something else on the label that really raised my lactivist hackles, and it was this:

Important notice: Breastfeeding is the best method of feeding infants in the first six months of life and is recommended for as long as possible during infancy.

(The italics are mine.)

Natrel Baboo is sold here in Canada, but its makers seem to be unaware that the Canadian Pediatric society recommends that breastfeeding continue up to age two and beyond. That statement clearly implies that at some point during infancy breastfeeding is just going to become impossible. Or, failing that, it suggests that breastfeeding should not continue outside of infancy. I believe that it’s up to every mother and child to set their own breastfeeding schedule. This is not some sort of contest to see who can go on the longest. But many nursing pairs happily continue through toddlerhood, and even into the preschool years. That is perfectly fine – in fact, it’s better than fine – although it means fewer customers for Natrel Baboo, so it’s no surprise they’re not lauding the benefits of nursing during the second year of life, let alone the third or fourth.

Still, most toddlers aren’t breastfeeding here in North America. Let’s say, just for the sake of argument, that your toddler is already weaned, or never really got started with breastfeeding in the first place. Does that mean that Natrel Baboo is the superior choice? There’s simply no clear evidence to support that claim. Nutritionists and dieticians who worked with Natrel say it has added benefits over whole cow’s milk, but I read an article quoting at least one independent nutritionist who disagrees. The Canadian Pediatric Society recommends that toddlers who aren’t breastfeeding drink whole cow’s milk or follow-up formula from 12-18 months of age, and whole cow’s milk from 18-24 months of age. All of this seems to suggest that the product is likely unnecessary.

The big difference for Natrel Baboo is the cost – it’s quite a lot more expensive than whole cow’s milk. I’m calling marketing spin. I believe the company is trying to create a need where none exists. Frankly, that ticks my inner lactivist off big time.

Clearly, I’m not a fan of Natrel Baboo, although I do have to admit it comes in a very pretty package. I wonder what you think. Would you buy this for your kids? Why or why not?

Joining Forces and Resolving to Fight Climate Change

Climate change is one of the most pressing issues facing the world today. In fact, it may be the most pressing issue. As the evidence mounts, and the scientific community reaches a strong consensus that our actions are affecting the average temperature of the planet we live on, we can no longer turn a blind eye to the reality of what’s happening. The time has come to act. This is why, for the month of January, the Green Moms Carnival has decided to join our voices together to speak out and share what we’re doing to fight climate change.

When we’re faced with these big, overwhelming issues, it’s easy to feel paralyzed. That’s why it’s so important to join with others. When we all do what we can, it begins to add up, and really make a difference. Since it’s still January, we’re all sharing what we’re doing to fight climate change and reduce our own carbon footprints in 2012. Maybe, as you read what the Green Moms are doing, you’ll be inspired to make some changes of your own, too.

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Food and Carbon Footprint

Linda at Citizen Green has resolved to Cut Out the Food Waste in 2012. She’s meal-planning, buying in bulk, composting and using leftovers, in order to reduce her carbon footprint. Did you know that 25% of the food grown in the US ends up getting thrown out? If you want to tackle your own food waste, read Linda’s post for tips.

Beth at My Plastic Free Life is trying out Recipes for the Semi-Vegan, Plastic-Free Lifestyle. By reducing her consumption of animal products, and avoiding plastic packaging, Beth is reducing the carbon footprint of her food and fighting climate change.

Abbie, a.k.a. Farmer’s Daughter, is sharing Five Ways to Reduce Your Carbon Footprint by Choosing Real Food. Instead of opting for packaged and processed food, she’s cooking from scratch. Fewer food miles and less packaging are just two of the ways her choice is fighting climate change.

Deanna Duke, author of The Non-Toxic Avenger and blogger at Crunchy Chicken, has some lofty Urban Homestead Goals for 2012. She’s going in on a pig share, raising meat rabbits and joining a honey CSA, among other things. In the process she’ll reduce her food miles, and her carbon footprint.

Brenna at Almost all the Truth is also making food-based Resolutions to Fight Climate Change. She suggests reducing the amount of animal products you consume by observing Meatless Monday or Vegan Thursday, and reducing your food miles by eating local. Both will reduce your carbon footprint.

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Getting Political for the Planet

Mary of In Women we Trust is making a Business Climate Change Resolution. She’s working hard to create real change. My favourite part is when she writes, “I resolve to stop referring to our business leaders as ‘leaders’ unless they truly are taking a leadership position.” Preach it, sister.

I didn’t write a post of my own for this carnival, but my resolution is to take more political action to fight climate change. For me this means writing letters, using my voice here on this blog and elsewhere, and joining groups that are fighting climate change. I want to make sure my elected representatives know how I feel.

Diane at Big Green Purse suggests Making a Big Hairy Audacious Green Goal for 2012. This is something significant and measurable. Her One in a Million campaign is urging people to shift $1000 of their annual spending to greener products and services. That sounds both audacious and awesome to me!

Harriet the Climate Mama is Fighting Climate Change with Facts in 2012. She’ll be speaking out, leading by example, and even testifying before Congress. Harriet protested in front of the White House against the Keystone Pipeline in 2011, so she’s already been making herself heard and taking political action to fight climate change.

In fact, Lynn at Organic Mania watched Harriet as she was arrested, and her post about Resolving to Fight Climate Change shares the account. She reminds us that together, we can accomplish so much.

Lisa at Retro Housewife Goes Green is making Green Resolutions for 2012. She’s been very vocal in her home community, working to promote local recycling and bringing awareness to cement kiln pollution. Her advocacy work is not only fighting climate change, it’s helping to protect the health of her neighbours, too.

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Being Mindful

It’s probably no surprise that Micaela the Mindful Momma is writing about Being Mindful. She’s taking care of the planet, her community, her family’s health and herself. She’s trying to create a green and healthy life, which will certainly reduce her carbon footprint.

Karen at Best of Mother Earth is also making Resolutions to Fight Climate Change that involve being more mindful. She’s championing pause and choice, saying, “A lifestyle of less is more. In the end this produces less waste and we are healthier!” I agree.

Jenn of The Green Parent is making New Year’s Resolutions for 2012 that involve mindfulness, as well, including listening more and holding the guilt. She’s also planning to spend more time on Facebook, connecting with other green moms. Community is so important!

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Image credit – Jacob & Kiki Hantla on Flickr

Resolving to Fight Climate Change

Stephanie at Good Girl Gone Green has tips for Reducing Your Carbon Car Print. The time we spend driving plays a big part in how much carbon we emit, and she has ideas for cutting back. For example, by keeping your car serviced and reducing your idling time, you can help fight climate change.

Jen at Puddle Jumping in DC has a novel idea – Green Your Cycle with Reusable Menstrual Products. Cloth pads and menstrual cups are actually easier to use than you might think. I’ve been using them for years myself, and I’m a convert.

Lori at Groovy Green Livin’ is sharing Four Resolutions to Fight Climate Change. From choosing zero VOC paint in a renovation to getting a home energy audit, she’s working hard to reduce her carbon footprint.

Betsy the Eco-novice has made five Climate Change Resolutions. She’s cancelling catalogues, turning off power strips and more, in order to reduce her personal carbon footprint.

The bloggers at The Green Phone Booth are also joining forces and Changing for Climate Change. Their resolutions range from being sure to remember reusable bags at the grocery store to reducing energy use to moving from environmentalism to activism. Once again, working together reaps big rewards for the planet.

As you can see, fighting climate change can involve taking small private steps to big political actions. It doesn’t matter so much what you do, though. What really matters is that you do something. Take a look at your life, and see what steps you can take to reduce your carbon footprint and fight climate change. The time has come to stand up, speak out, and act – if not for ourselves, then for our children.

How are you fighting climate change in 2012?

Podcast: Selina Robinson, City Councillor and Surrogate

A version of this post was live on my site for a few hours yesterday – nice going, Bob. Sorry for the confusion, everyone.

This week on the podcast I’m excited to share an interview with Selina Robinson. She’s a City Councillor in Coquitlam, BC – the community I actually call home – and a mom of two grown children. She also has a somewhat interesting experience, having served as a surrogate mom for a friend approximately 11 years ago. You can find out a little bit more about that in this video, taken at PechaKucha Night Coquitlam:

I wanted to speak to Selina for two reasons. First, I was interested in hearing her perspective as someone who works in local government. She was first elected in November, 2008, and she’s just finishing up her first term. Prior to her time on city council, she worked as a family therapist. I wanted to hear what inspired her to throw her hat into the ring and put herself out there as an elected official.

Selina Robinson Coquitlam City Councillor SurrogateI also wanted to hear more about Selina’s experiences acting as a surrogate. This is a topic that I have discussed with a number of other moms, and there seems to be a definite divide between those who would relish the chance to act as a surrogate, and those who would never do it in a million years. I’ll come right out and admit that I’m in the never in a million years camp. I was sick through my whole pregnancy with Hannah, and even with Jacob I experienced the occasional vomiting episode well into my third trimester. While pregnancy is short compared to the life of a child, I can’t imagine going through it for a baby that wasn’t mine. Selina clearly feels differently, so I was curious to hear more from her.

Listen to my full interview with Selina here:

Next week I’ll be sharing an interview with Kim Wilson, the Creative Head of Children’s & Youth Programming for the CBC. We’ll be talking about public broadcasting, creating quality programming and hearing how things work Kids CBC. Subscribe to my podcast in iTunes, and you won’t miss a thing!

The Elephant in the Room

The Closing Keynote at BlogHer 2011 in San Diego was amazing. It featured Ricki Lake, who really needs no introduction. (Aside – if you haven’t seen The Business of Being Born, get on it, pronto!) Me and my fellow birth-y mamas were out in full force to see her. But her co-panelists were equally fabulous. Fatemeh Fakhraie of Muslimah Media Watch raised a lot of excellent issues, and changed my perspective on how I view the women’s movement in other countries. And Carol Jenkins, Emmy award winning newscaster and part of the Women’s Media Center (WMC), was really inspiring.

Carol shared this video clip, which the WMC made at Sundance Film Festival. It gave me chills:

Through the keynote, the presenters shared their opinions on how women are represented (or misrepresented) in the media, and discussed some of the core issues. They talked about things like how to present yourself as a subject matter expert, so that reporters will seek you out for interviews, and how to rectify the gender imbalance in key positions. Of course, gender imbalance is not limited to the media in any way. However, because the media is our primary method of sharing information and informing ourselves, when it is created almost entirely by men it follows that women are, to some degree, left out of the conversation. We become invisible.

With the advent of social media, things are changing. That’s the good news. Anyone with access to a computer can set up a blog, send a tweet, or update their Facebook status. This is leveling the playing field, and changing the dynamic. But most of us still turn to newspapers, magazines or the nightly news to find out what’s happening in the world. So if women want to have a greater voice in what news gets shared, then we need to participate in traditional media in greater numbers.

Carol Jenkins discussed two ways to make our voices heard. The first is that when someone wants to speak to us, we need to be ready. She said that, in general, men are more willing to drop everything and be someplace in 20 minutes to talk to a reporter, which means they’re easier to interview. Her other point was that we need to deliberately cultivate a bench full of qualified women, so that when hiring decisions are made, there are many women to choose from.

I understand Carol’s points. All the same I feel that this is where we confront the elephant in the room.

Women are still, for the most part, the primary caregivers of young children. This severely limits our ability to drop everything and be someplace in 20 minutes. On top of that, many women (and I include myself among them) struggle with balancing career responsibility and family responsibility once we have children. Because of that, we often choose the “mommy track”, opting for alternative work arrangements or less demanding roles. And once you’re on the mommy track, it can be hard to get off it. I personally believe that this is one of the big reasons why we see fewer women CEOs, fewer women news directors and fewer women in publishing.

It is very difficult to combine the care of small children with a job that carries a lot of responsibility. I think that men understand that just as well as women. The difference is simply that – in general – women are more likely to take the career hit, while men continue to work. Yes, we need to do our best to be prepared to answer the call when we get it. Yes, we need to act as mentors and help support and cultivate women in the workforce. But until we can bear children and make some career compromises without stigma, I don’t believe that things will change.

There are two things that I think need to happen. The first is that we need formal workplace arrangements that allow employees to change their work schedule or their role for a period of time, and then transition back on to their career track. The second is that we need men to take advantage of these policies, as well as women, to help remove the stigma. As long as only one gender is taking family-related leave, then work-life balance and caring for children remain “women’s issues”.

I have a son and a daughter. When I think about the world that they will grow up in, and I imagine them having children (hopefully lots!) one day, I would love it if they both had access to the same options and opportunities. If Jacob so chooses, I hope that he will be able to take some time off to be with his children, or juggle his work schedule so that he can go on field trips. If Hannah so chooses, I hope that she can have the same things. And then, as their children get older, I hope that they are able to continue advancing in their careers as they are ready. I would like a better working world for both of my children.

I can see that progress has been made, even in the course of my lifetime, in terms of leveling the professional playing field and creating better workplace policies. But we still have a long way to go. I’m glad to have women like Fatemeh Fakhraie, Ricki Lake and Carol Jenkins leading the way. It gives me hope, and helps me see what I can do to make change happen. If we all work together, I believe we can get that elephant out of the room.

What do you think? Do you think that women should face a career penalty for stepping off the professional track to spend more time with their children? Do you agree that as long as only women go on the “mommy track”, it will carry a stigma? And how do you think we can better level the playing field? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Talking Motherhood, Career and Feminism with Marcy

I first met my friend Marcy at church almost 10 years ago. In face we once delivered a sermon together in honour of International Women’s Day (if you listen to the recording at the end of the post you can hear Jacob screaming as Jon carries him out of the service). I was trying to remember the first time we actually had a conversation, and I couldn’t, so I’ll have to apologize to her. But regardless of when or how that auspicious first meeting happened, what I do remember clearly was serving on a committee together with her. And I remember how much I sincerely enjoyed working with her.

What I love about Marcy is how warm and open she is. I also love how readily she shares from her own experiences. If you have been a regular visitor to my comments section, you will already be familiar with her wise and well thought-out responses. In fact, I have come to think of her as something of a mentor – someone who has been right where I am now, and come through it all with flying colours.

I decided to ask Marcy to be on my podcast, first of all because I consider her a friend and a role model. But more than that, I knew that she had a lot to share. She started her career as a school teacher, and became an at-home mother while her children were small. She was a feminist, and when her children got a little older she returned to school, helped to found the local women’s resource society and an emergency shelter for women facing domestic abuse. She became an employment counselor, and worked as a consultant, eventually moving into full-time work. Her story gives me hope that I can build something great as a mother of young children.

I encourage you to listen to Marcy’s interview. It’s full of inspiration, humour, and warmth, just like Marcy herself. And then I encourage you to talk to your own role models, and let them know what they’ve meant for you.

I’m working on a very exciting interview for next week. I can’t wait to share it with you! In the meantime, subscribe to the Strocel.com podcast, and you’ll be sure not to miss a minute of it!

Accountability vs. Vigilantism

In mid-June, in the wake of the Vancouver Canucks’ Stanley Cup loss, rioting broke out in Vancouver. Those of us who consider Vancouver our city were deeply hurt and extremely angry with the people who overturned cars, set fires, smashed windows and looted stores. That is not our Vancouver.

In the aftermath of the riot, two things happened. The first was that Vancouverites joined together to bring healing to the city. People wrote messages of love and hope on the “apology wall” outside a looted store. They helped to clean up and offered support to the police who were on the front lines during the riot. The second thing that happened was that efforts began to identify perpetrators. The police were deluged with tips, including photos, video, links to Craiglist listings and screen shots of Facebook status updates from rioters.

As it turns out, rioters are maybe not the most forward-thinking individuals, in general. They will not take the time to think about whether or not posting the photo of yourself on top of the burning police car online is a good idea, and they will not hesitate to list the purses they stole for sale on a public website. Not really surprising, because I have to think that if you were able to consider the consequences of your actions, you probably wouldn’t be rioting.

I am glad that the people who trashed the city are being held responsible for their actions. It is not OK to steal and destroy property and generally hold a city hostage. Let me be very clear here: rioting is not OK. Don’t do it! And you will definitely not get away with it in this day and age when every person has a cell phone with a camera!

The public cry to identify and hold those accountable, though, has ventured into territory that makes me feel uncomfortable. The family of one 17-year-old who was set a car on fire (and accepted responsibility for his actions) was forced to flee from their home following threats. Perceived perpetrators have been harassed and threatened with violence. Vigilantism has taken over. Instead of allowing the police to do their job, some people want to exact their own retribution. I happen to think that’s not OK, just as rioting is not OK.

The attitude has taken hold, though, as people saw how effectively social media tools can be used to identify the perpetrators of crimes. This led to a comment from a local politician that made me stop and stare. I was reading a newspaper article about a small lake in a park not too far from my house, which is stocked with trout for fishing. Some people are apparently catching more than their daily allowance, or fishing without a license. Other people are smoking and littering. Not cool, folks. A concerned citizen brought the issue, as well as a petition with 59 names on it, in front to the city council to discuss possible solutions. Here is the quote from the article that stood out to me:

Councillor Mae Reid asked that park users who see violators take their photos and post them to social media websites. “We need to embarrass these people,” she said.

Really? We are now calling on local citizens to post photos of people who are littering, in an effort to subject them to public ridicule? Does she not see that the public outcry over some less-than-considerate park users may be a little lower than the public outcry over a riot?

I think we can all agree that it’s a good idea for everyone to follow the rules of basic human decency. When they don’t, we have systems in place to hold them accountable. If those systems aren’t working, then we need to fix them. But is it really OK for all of us to use our smart phones to act as some sort of public surveillance system? Is it really OK for us to seek to publicly shame each other over every infraction? Does it make us better people to ridicule others? And are we really so sure that we’re above reproach, ourselves?

That last point is really the one that sticks out for me. I am a rule-follower of the highest order. I don’t riot, or litter, or take more fish than I’m allowed to. I return other peoples’ shopping carts and try to do the right thing. But I’ve found myself with 12 items in the 10 items or less lane and shrugged it off. I may have picked my nose once or twice in my life, and I’ve faced embarrassing public meltdowns with a toddler. I don’t want someone else to snap photos in an effort to shame me into better behaviour in the future.

I think it’s possible to hold other people – and ourselves, for that matter – accountable, without resorting to bad behaviour of our own, or providing 24/7 surveillance of our fellow citizens.

What do you think? Do you think that public shaming is necessary and effective? And where do you draw the line? What sort of offense merits public shaming, and what sort doesn’t? I’d love to hear!

What Makes Canada Awesome

Let me start by wishing you all a very happy Canada Day! Today this great country of mine (or ours, if you happen to be Canadian as well) is 144 years old. Because on July 1, 1867 the British North America Act came into effect, uniting Nova Scotia, New Brunswick and the Province of Canada into a single nation.

A national holiday is a chance to gush effusively about your country. So I started thinking of the things that fill me with national pride. Some are unique, some not so much. But this isn’t about winning a contest, or comparing myself to the other person. It’s about loving the place that I call home just as it is, warts and all. So on Canada’s birthday, I present:

Things that Make Canada Awesome

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Photo credit: Yume Photo on Flickr

  1. We’re really freaking big. We cover 9,984,670 km2 or 3,854,085 sq mi, in fact.
  2. Our national anthem rocks.
  3. We believe in democracy.
  4. I don’t have to worry what it will cost when my kids need to see a doctor.
  5. Mr. Dressup rocks (and, FYI, he started life as an American).
  6. We welcome people from all over the world, and they enrich our country immeasurably.
  7. Our money is colourful. This makes it easy to see, at a glance, what denominations I have in my wallet.
  8. Our national animal is the beaver. Just think of the jokes that can be made! Which leads me to …
  9. Some of the funniest people in the world are Canadian. Sadly, I am not one of them.
  10. We have had a gender neutral definition of marriage for six years now, meaning that same-sex marriage is legal across the whole country. I am happy to report that my heterosexual marriage has not noticeably suffered.
  11. Cereal box French. Allow me to display mine: Gratuit! En prime! Nutritifs essentiels!
  12. One day, if all goes to plan, this gorgeous couple will be our King and Queen:

The Official Royal Wedding photographs
Photo credit: The British Monarchy on Flickr

So today, I celebrate my country. Long may it live. And wherever you happen to be, let me ask what makes your country awesome. Let’s share the love around!

Using Your Voice Wisely

It’s Thursday, so I’m Crafting my Life! This year, I’m just writing about whatever is currently on my mind. And if you would like to chime in and contribute a guest post about your own journey, please drop me a line and we’ll chat.

Before I get into my post for today, I am going to get this out of the way: I eat at McDonald’s. Not very often – probably about once every three months or so – but I go there. My kids eat there, too, and far more often than I do. A fast food meal out is their go-to treat when they spend time with their grandparents, which means they visit a couple of times a month, and I choose not to stress about it. The world is a complicated and nuanced place, and a person can hold an opinion and not always act in accordance with that opinion. Call it hypocrisy, call it cognitive dissonance, call it being human. I am willing to own it, and I am not about to pass judgment on anyone else who consumes the occasional fast food meal.

Now, on to my point. I am a proud member of the Green Moms Carnival. Yesterday, one of the other members sent an email to the group asking if there were any Canadian residents who would be interested in applying for one of three spots as a McDonald’s All-Access Mom. Her idea was that if one of those moms is environmentally conscious, they may be able to shine a light on behind-the-scenes practices at McDonald’s. I am pretty much the only Canadian resident in the group, so I checked it out.

Right after my email exchange with the Green Moms, I saw my friend Annie’s post about the All-Access Moms, complete with a video that shines a light on some of McDonald’s questionable business practices. If you’re not familiar with them, I recommend checking out Fast Food Nation, The Omnivore’s Dilemma or Food, Inc. But for right now, let me summarize my personal concerns with McDonald’s:

  1. A McDonald’s meal comes with a lot of disposable packaging which ends up in the landfill – or worse, on my front lawn.
  2. McDonald’s is constantly working to drive down the cost of their food, which means that their eggs and meat produced under inhumane conditions.
  3. Their food is not healthy – and it doesn’t even decompose.

If I applied to be one of the McDonald’s All-Access Moms, I could do so as a skeptic. In the unlikely event they actually chose me, I would tour their production facilities with a critical eye, and I would do my best to remain objective. Would I succeed? It’s hard to say. There’s a reason journalistic ethics require that reporters don’t receive gifts from the people they’re reporting on. When someone’s flying you around and treating you well, you’re naturally going to be inclined to like them. And when you like them, it’s hard to rip them to shreds when you write your article.

On top of that, I have to assume that some amount of care will go into what the moms get to see. They’re likely not going to be entering slaughterhouses, or talking to disaffected employees. They’re going to be presented with a polished and crafted image. It’s understandable, really. When I know that company’s going to be coming over, I clean my house, so that I’m giving the best possible impression. I’m sure that McDonald’s would do the same. When they’re showing what “really goes on” at McDonald’s, they’re going to show their best side.

There’s another factor at work here, too. The point of this exercise – like all PR exercises – is to generate positive publicity for McDonald’s. And one of they ways they do that is by partnering with moms, so that they can use their names and images. To continue the thought experiment, if I were accepted, and even if I did manage to maintain my objectivity and find some real answers to hard-hitting questions, in the process I would be lending my name to a company whose practices I don’t condone. Occasionally taking actions in my personal life that don’t conform with my highest ideals is one thing, but publicly promoting a brand I don’t believe in is quite another.

As a blogger, I have created a personal brand. I think of this, really, as just another way of saying that I have a reputation built around my personal platform. I view this platform as an almost sacred space, and I am very picky about who or what I talk about here. In part, this is to maintain my personal credibility and keep my blog from becoming a PR pitch machine. But an even bigger part comes from the journey I’m on to live a life that I’m comfortable with. If I don’t want to work in a job that doesn’t fit me, why would I use my platform in a way that doesn’t fit me? I want to live authentically, which means using my voice in a way that affirms my values rather than undermining them.

So, while part of me thinks it would be interesting to get a first-hand view of the fast food industry, even if only to see what they are and are not showing me, I’m not going to apply. If I don’t want to give McDonald’s the right to use my name and image, I’m not going to offer it to them. That’s my decision, and I will own it. Your decision may be different – and I respect that. But however you decide to use your voice, I hope that it affirms your life and conforms with your values.

Tell me, would you submit an application to be an All-Access Mom? Do you think you could maintain your objectivity when they wined you and dined you? And would you be comfortable with your name and image being used to promote a company whose practices you disagree with? I’d love to hear!

Midwifery, Birth and Maternity Care in BC and Beyond

I have been doing my podcast for a few months now. And the longer that I do it for, the more interview opportunities pop up. It’s like anything else – as you gain experience, you get better at doing something. So when I got a press release in my inbox letting me know that my birthday was the first ever BC Midwives’ Day here in British Columbia, and it concluded by letting me know that Ganga Jolicoeur, the Executive Director of the Midwives Association of BC, was available for interviews, I jumped.

I have had two midwife-attended births myself, and I am a great believer in the midwifery model of care. I appreciated the time that my midwives took with me, addressing my concerns, answering my questions and asking for my input. I felt empowered in birth, which was immensely valuable for me personally.

Once I connected with Ganga we couldn’t stop talking. I broke the interview into two parts to make it a little more manageable. In the first part, which is included in this post today, we talked about issues in maternity care, as well as other issues facing midwives, and the women they serve. Hint: we need more midwives! We also need more spaces for midwifery students.

During the interview I mentioned an article about birth in remote, Northern communities, and if you’re interested in birth it’s definitely worth a read. So be sure to check out Birthing at home: It takes a village
(which isn’t actually about homebirth, but birthing in your home community, which isn’t always possible for women in remote areas). It highlights a lot of the problems that people face when maternity care isn’t readily available to them. Midwifery care presents one possible solution to these complex situations.

If you’re interested in birth, babies and midwifery, you’ll want to listen to this interview. And you’ll also want to come back next week for the second part. Or subscribe to my podcast in iTunes, and make sure you don’t miss a thing!

Swimsuits and Six-Year-Olds

I like to think that I’m a fairly laid-back parent. When my daughter wants to run around wearing nothing but her underwear, I don’t freak out. When my kids do things that are a little dangerous, I stand back and let them learn their own lesson (although I do issue the occasional dire warning to placate my conscience). And I try to avoid making pronouncements about “Kids These Days” and how much harder I had it back in my day. Because, really, I grew up in the late 70s and 80s, things weren’t really that hard. Unless you consider having to wait in a bank line-up to withdraw money hard. Which, come to think of it, I do. Kids these days don’t know how good they have it! Back in my day …

Ahem.

Anyways, back to the point at hand. While I’m fairly laissez-faire in my parenting, when I took my kids shopping for new bathing suits all of my laid-back ways ran smack into the row of skimpy swimwear designed for six-year-old girls. There were many, many bikinis, and my daughter Hannah wanted one really quite a lot. She also liked the one piece suits with cut-outs on the sides. It became very clear to me almost immediately that Hannah and I were operating at cross-purposes. I wanted her to cover as much of herself as possible, and she wanted to cover as little of herself as possible.

June 1969
An example of a swimsuit with cut-outs on the sides (image courtesy of dovima_is_devine_II on Flickr)

I remember being Hannah’s age, and wanting to wear the same clothes that I saw teenagers wearing. If someone had gotten me six-year-old sized high heels and an itty bitty bikini I would have been all over it. This is what our culture says is attractive, after all, and I wanted to be attractive. Not sexually attractive, but pretty. And I can see that my daughter feels the same way. She just wants to wear the same stuff that adults get to wear, and which she views as aesthetically pleasing.

When we’re talking swimsuits it’s really easy for me to just pull the sun safety card and say that I want as much of my kid’s skin covered as possible so that she doesn’t burn and put herself at increased risk for skin cancer down the road. But the truth is that part of me would want my kid covered whether or not a sunburn was dangerous. As my daughter gets older, I become more concerned about the clothing she wears. I’ve seen baby-sized bikinis, and when an actual baby is wearing them, complete with baby rolls and a diaper, it’s just cute. But at some point, a bathing suit stops being just cute and starts being alluring.

Beach Ready Baby
It was much easier when she was this age (image courtesy of emerille on Flickr)

At six years old I wouldn’t say that my daughter’s clothing choices are intended to be alluring or attractive. But as soon as five or six years from now that could be a different story. And as my daughter sits roughly at the halfway mark between infancy and puberty, we’ve reached the point where public nudity is probably not really cute anymore. Especially because, more and more, I’m entrusting her to the care of others and allowing her greater freedom when we venture out in public. Some part of me feels like she’ll be safer if she’s thoroughly covered up.

I have mixed feelings about this reaction, though. On the one hand, I don’t want to blow my six-year-old’s fashion choices out of proportion. And for another, I don’t want to place the onus for avoiding attention of whatever kind on her. The truth is that she can wear whatever makes her comfortable. How other people react is their choice – including me. But on the other hand, I don’t appreciate that the bathing suit manufacturers of the world appear to be conspiring to sexualize my child, and I don’t want my daughter to think that she needs to wear a skimpy swimsuit to be beautiful.

Grandma and me - Aug 1983 - Dohez Beach
In my day photos were sort of yellowish and the swimsuits didn’t have cut-outs (image courtesy of sflovestory on Flickr)

In the end, I asked Hannah to choose a one-piece bathing suit without cut-outs. I may have played the sun safety card. She found one that she likes, and she picked out a matching hat. She wore it around the house all afternoon, pausing every so often to pose for me, so it’s clearly a hit. I’m glad that it’s a little girl suit for the little girl that she still is. I’m also glad that it’s big enough to fit her for a couple of years, so that I don’t have to face swimsuit shopping with my daughter again until at least 2013 or so. I could use a good long break before I have to face that again.

What about you? Have you ever run into the skimpy swimsuit issue with your own daughter? Do you think that bikinis on six-year-olds are fun or inappropriate? And have you noticed (as I did) that choosing a boy’s suit is ever so much easier? I’d love to hear!

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