2011 Year in Photos Slide Show of Awesomeness

It’s funny how traditions start. You do something a few times and presto, you have yourself a tradition. It all kind of sneaks up on you accidentally like that. Although, if you think about it, maybe it’s not really funny at all. Maybe all of life kind of sneaks up on you accidentally like that.

One of my most treasured blogging traditions started in 2008, when I decided to make a slideshow with some of my favourite photos from the previous 12 months. I spent a long time choosing the images, and then I set the whole thing to music and watched it over and over and over. I liked it so much that I did it again in 2009, and 2010. This is how it officially became a tradition. Once you hit that third time, it’s no longer just something that you do, it’s something that you do because it’s that time of year and you always do it at that time of year. So it’s no surprise that as 2011 ends, I’ve made another year-end slideshow.

I don’t know what everyone else thinks of my slideshow, but I can tell you that my husband Jon and I adore it. My kids adore it, too. So I’m going to keep doing it. Because, you see, some traditions are for breaking and some are for keeping. The slideshow is definitely a keeper.

Happy New Year, and all the best for 2012!

PS – Another tradition that I enjoy is my monthly review of things I learned. Some are serious, some are funny, and all are hard-won. I will be running my December review on Monday, January 2. I’d love it if you played along. For this month I’m expanding the definition to include year-in-review posts as well. Write something on or before January 2 and come back here to include it in my link-up!

The Practical Miracle of Birth, and Christmas

Christmas is an easy holiday to love. There are trees with twinkling lights, cookies and hot cocoa, holiday parties and feasts, and children singing Christmas carols. And behind it all, there’s a newborn baby, bringing peace, hope and redemption to a troubled world.

I am a mother. While my babies were not born in a stable, and no angels heralded their arrival, I understand the promise and gift of a child. Newborns haven’t yet been labelled or judged. They are pure, distilled human potential, and the moment that they arrive is sanctified and holy, regardless of the location or circumstances. I believe that all people feel this. You can see it in the way that we react to newborns, and even pregnant women. We feel the promise of new life, and it resonates with us. This is the feeling that Christmas brings out in me.

Cuddling at 8 weeks
Me with baby Hannah

Every birth is miraculous. It means the continuation of humanity’s existence. It means two people where just before there was only one. It means one person putting herself on the line for the sake of another. It is the beginning of decades of life, and the creation of a new family order. There is hope in birth, and mystery. What will this child become? Who is this new little person? How will this baby change things?

Resting together
Newborn Jacob, his hair still wet

Every birth is also deeply practical. Both of mine reached a point where I pushed only because I had no choice. Pregnancy takes its course, and a child arrives, one way or another. And then you make the adjustments, because you have to. You get up in the middle of the night and feed the baby, because you have to. You buy diapers and a car seat and little baby clothes because you have to. You eventually figure out systems and rhythms and routines to make the whole experience flow a little more smoothly, but parenthood is far more poopy diapers and 3am feedings than moments of transcendence.

CARAVAGGIO Rest during the flight from Egypt, detail of Mary and Jesus, c1597
Photo credit: carulmare on Flickr

When I consider the Christmas story – a young couple, traveling, welcoming their baby in a stable – I see both the miraculous and practical. Of course, the fact that the story also includes a star pointing the way and a heavenly host praising God amps up the miraculous level a little more than usual. But at its heart, it’s still a birth story. It’s the arrival of a new human being, full of promise and potential, who we hope will grow into someone great.

Tonight, I will make merry and eat turkey and read stories aloud. I will help my children write a note for Santa, and leave out a plate of cookies and a glass of milk. I will remind them (over and over) that they have to go to sleep if they want Santa to come, and I will remind them to come and get me before they go look at the tree. I will stay up late wrapping. I will fill stockings and light up the tree. And before I finally go to sleep I will visit my sleeping children, and remember the practical miracles of their own births. Those moments when they came into being, and changed my life, whether I was ready or not.

Merry Christmas! I will not be posting on a regular schedule next week, so let me take this chance to wish you all the best, and thank you for sharing this past year with me. It means so much.

A Bird Perched on my Christmas Tree

My Christmas tree isn’t stylish. It doesn’t have a theme, and its colours don’t match. Instead of white lights I opted for multicolour, when I bought them at a Boxing Day sale in 1999. They’ve held up well in the past 12 years, lighting a dozen Christmases and many trees, real and fake. They go with my hodgepodge of ornaments – some bought at the same Boxing Day sale, some inherited from relatives, some gifted and now some made by my children and presented to me eagerly long before gifts are meant to be opened. “Look, Mama, look what I made for you!”

How can you not look? You have to look.

I dragged my heels putting the tree up this year. I just wasn’t feeling it, to be honest. In years past the tree trimming left me feeling tense, cranky and tired. My kids wanted to help – oh how they wanted to help. But as they fought with each other and threw ornaments around and tangled the garlands it was hard to take their help in the spirit in which it was offered. And then, over the course of the holiday season ornaments were removed and strewn about the house. They were lost and broken, and I tried to be understanding, but sometimes it was hard. So this year I held off until December 15, even as my children spent weeks begging me to please, please, pretty please put up the tree today.

The tree

I dragged out the tree and the boxes of ornaments, and got down to business. At first, things didn’t look good. A few lights were burned out, and while my kids tried to help me replace them they threw the entire contents of one of my storage boxes all over the floor. They wanted to help me deck the tree in garlands, but they tangled everything up and made my job harder. I was beginning to lose hope. My redemption came, finally, when it was time to begin hanging ornaments. Suddenly, magic happened.

This year, three-year-old Jacob decided to take on the task of hanging the ornaments on the little hooks. I honestly didn’t think he could pull it off, but since I have plastic hooks that aren’t sharp or otherwise dangerous, I decided to let him try. I went to the computer to play around on Twitter fire up some Christmas music, and by the time I turned back I could see them. Jacob had gathered all the (non-breakable) Christmas balls, and was oh-so-carefully hanging each one on a little hook, and handing them to six-year-old Hannah. Perched on a stool, Hannah was hanging them one by one, all on the same patch of tree, and singing along to the music. They worked together beautifully, and happily, and I felt the holiday spirit wash over me.

My most precious ornament

Buoyed by optimism, I got out a special box that hasn’t been opened in years, marked “Precious & Fragile Ornaments”. It contains the very delicate and breakable things that I haven’t dared place on my tree since before I had children. It also contains the true heirlooms. These are the little pieces of Christmas that carry history I can’t stand to see lost. It was better to leave them in storage than risk a disaster, and so I did. The very most precious ornament of all – the one that I value above all others – is a little bird with chipped paint and a long white tail. I took it out and let each child touch it with one finger, and then gave it a place of honour high on my tree.

That bird was purchased 62 years ago by my grandmother, for her first Christmas with my grandfather. It was 1949 and she was a newlywed. It wasn’t the only bird she bought, but the others have been broken or lost in the intervening decades. I remember them from my own childhood, when I would carefully stroke their tails or move them around on her tree. I imagine that my mother remembers them from her childhood as well, a fixture of holidays since before she was born. Now just one survives to tell the story of all those Christmases. All the years, and the people who came and went. People like my great-aunts who are no longer with us, and my own grandfather who passed away in 1998. It saw them in happy times – festive times. Does it remember them? Will it remember me?

This year, that bird will watch as my own babies race towards the tree on Christmas morning. It will see new faces filled with joy, and hear new voices. And I will feel the solid weight of tradition and family and holidays, as I see it looking down on us from its perch on the tree that I didn’t really want to put up. Sometimes, I guess, Christmas happens because of you, and sometimes it happens in spite of you.

Do you have any special ornaments on your Christmas tree? Tell me all about them!

The Christmas Concert

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My daughter, Hannah, is six years old. She goes to grade one at our neighbourhood public school. Like school children all over the world, she recently participated in her school’s Christmas concert. There was a whole lot of practicing leading up to the show. It started in mid-November and culminated this week in dress rehearsals and performances for the rest of the school and finally the big day itself. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard “Paint the Town December” in the past four weeks. Six-year-olds take rehearsing seriously.

Six-year-olds take performing pretty seriously, too. While the older kids at Hannah’s school had clearly been there, done that when it came to holiday concerts, the little kids were extremely enthusiastic. They sang at full volume, performed all their movements with great gusto, and paused every so often to wave to their relatives, who were snapping photos from the audience. To borrow a phrase from sports, they gave it 110%. When they were finished, they took a bow and drank in the applause. This was their moment in the spotlight, and they felt it.

When adults perform as a group they usually try not to stand out. If you’re in a choir, for instance, your voice is supposed to melt in with everyone else’s. The goal is to sound as if you’re all singing with one voice, instead of dozens of different voices. Everything should blend melodically. I’ve sung in a few choirs, and I understand that. In the same vein, any movements you make should be choreographed to perfection. If they’re supposed to be synchronized, they should actually be synchronized. There’s no “I” in team, and all that jazz.

In an elementary school concert, there are nothing but I’s in team. While the kids are more or less singing together, and they try to perform their actions on cue, they’re a collection of individual performers. They’re not a single body performing in unison. Each one will bring his or her own individual touch to the performance. When they mime painting, everyone will be painting their own picture. Some kids will make big sweeping motions, some kids will pretend to jab with their brush, and some kids (like mine) will paint fine details and pause to dip their brush in more paint. It won’t occur to them to try to match up with their classmates. They’ll do it on their own.

There are downsides to the elementary school approach to performance. When we’re all doing our own thing, we miss out on the beauty that can take place when multiple people really work together to create something. When we cooperate with others, we really can do great things, and build something that is much more than the sum of its parts. The choir with the voices that blend in perfect harmony really does sound better. When the Rockettes are lined up doing their “eye-high” kick in perfect unison, it looks spectacular. Sometimes, it’s good to not stand out.

On the other hand, I think that when we start trying to blend in, we lose something. The unbridled enthusiasm of children exists, in part, because they’re throwing their whole selves into what they’re doing without concern for others. They’re acting with passion and doing their own thing, in their own way, without apology. It doesn’t occur to them to stop and wonder what other people will think of them. They’re not in it to make someone else happy, they’re in it to make themselves happy.

I sat and watched as the kids performed their big finale number. They were supposed to all sway in unison, but they didn’t quite achieve it, so they ended up bumping into each other periodically. The effect was more like drunken lurching, but they didn’t seem to care. They continued to sing their hearts out, and sway in time to their own inner music. As I watched, it occurred to me that a life of passion requires a balance. Sometimes, we need to work with others and do our best to synchronize our efforts. Sometimes, we need to do our own thing without apology. The real secret to life, I suspect, is knowing when to do which.

I don’t think there’s a single answer that’s right for everyone, in terms of when to cooperate and when to follow your own heart. But for many adults, the reality is that we haven’t followed our own hearts in some time. If this is where you are, then why not follow the example set by elementary school performers? Sing your own song, without apology. Spend a little less time blending, and a little more time doing what pleases you. In the process, maybe you’ll find your own perfect balance.

Spun Lace on the Grass

It doesn’t snow all that often here in Vancouver. (Although it can – I know that. I don’t want to invoke the curse of the internet.) Because it doesn’t snow all that often, our grass stays green year-round. But sometimes, in the winter, the weather turns cold and bright. When you wake up the morning and look out the window you see a world that is not white, exactly – but it’s not green, either. It’s covered in frost, like finely spun lace, blanketing the grass and the leaves. It makes the ground crunch under your feet, and kills the parsley that’s still trying to hang on in my garden. As I walk my daughter to school in the morning, my breath hanging in a cloud in front of my face, I can’t help but be struck by its stark beauty.

Winter leaf

If it’s cold enough, the frost sticks around all day. Or maybe for several days, or even more than a week. As long as the rain is at bay, and the thermometer hovers near freezing, the ice crystals hold their place. And while I’m not a fan of the cold, I find the way the light glints off of each blade of grass to be enchanting.

Frost on the grass

My children take delight in the frost. They would prefer snow, of course, but they’re pragmatic enough to take joy where they can find it. They tromp across the lawn, leaving footprints in the grass and enjoying the crunching sound. My daughter Hannah has even gone so far as to attempt frost angels. They’re not quite as good as snow angels, but they still sort of work, as her weight leaves an impression on the icy ground. She doesn’t shiver against the chill, as I do – she leaps in with both feet and makes her own fun.

Frosty leaf

Winter won’t last forever. Soon enough the frost will all melt and the ground will be soft. Little green shoots will sprout up, trusting in the promise of spring. So for now, I’m doing my best to enjoy the gifts that this season brings. It has its own striking beauty, to bring comfort in the cold, and brilliant starbursts of light to offset the long nights. I just need to take the time to pause and look around for a moment, so that I can see it.

Where do you find beauty on the cold, winter days?

Wherefore Art Thou, Christmas Tree?

Every day my daughter Hannah asks when we can put the Christmas tree up. She has seen the familiar twinkling shape appearing in our neighbours’ windows, and noticed decorated trees in public spaces almost everywhere we go. The holiday season is here, and she wants to decorate.

When I was a kid, we didn’t put our tree up until a few days before Christmas. We had real, cut trees, and my mother was concerned that if we put it up too early, it would dry out and become a fire hazard. I don’t think the delay was tied only to worries about pine needles falling on the floor, though. Traditionally, trees were not put up until Christmas Eve. The Christmas tree arrived at the last minute for most of its history, and we were just carrying on that tradition.

Tree and stockings
Christmas past – my family room does not look like this right now.

It seems to me, however, that Christmas trees start popping up earlier every year. We’ve started taking note of occasions like Black Friday in Canada, which has created a new kick-off to the holiday season. Instead of waiting until December is in full swing, Christmas arrives in late November, and sticks around until after New Year’s. Thanks to artificial trees, the decorations can arrive early as well. It’s now common for people to put up their tree a full month or more before Christmas Day, which has led my daughter to ask why I don’t.

I love Christmas, I really do. It’s my most favourite holiday. I love Christmas music and Christmas parties and Christmas cookies and – yes – I love Christmas trees. There’s a magic in Christmas that never fails to reel me in. And yet, I’m resistant to putting up the tree too early. We have an artificial tree now, so there’s really no reason for me to hold off, other than pure obstinacy. And yet, in spite of the fact that I could put the tree up, I remain resolute in my refusal even as my kids plead with me to please, please, pretty please put the tree up today.

Finished project
This is what Hannah would like to see right now, but this photo is from 2008.

I’ve been asking myself why I’m so set on keeping the tree in its box for now. What is it, exactly, that leads me to dig in my heels? I think that part of it is just pure laziness. I know that eventually I’ll have to clean out the family room and rearrange the furniture and untangle the lights and all of that stuff, but I don’t particularly want to do it today. But an even bigger part is that I don’t want to rush things. I want to spend a little time in preparation and anticipation, rather than rushing headlong into the main event.

With each passing year, time flies by more quickly for me. When I speak to people who are much older than I am, I hear that this only continues. Everything is happening too fast already – I don’t need to rush ahead. I can take my time, and leave the tree in the crawl space until I’m ready. In the meantime, we’ll work our way through the advent calendar and bake cookies and take our time as we amble towards Christmas Day. Eventually, we’ll put up our tree, and before I know it the whole thing will be over and it will be back to real life in 2012. For now, I’ll enjoy the journey, and drag my heels for just a little bit longer.

When do you put up your Christmas tree? Would you agree that trees seem to go up earlier now than they did in decades past? And do you have a real tree, or a fake tree? I’d love to hear!

Put on your Brightest Colours, Winter is Coming

The mornings are cold now, and sometimes if I’m up early enough I can spot a light frost. In response, the trees are putting on brilliant coats of yellow, orange and red, colouring the landscape in the vibrant hues that will soon give way to bare branches against the winter sky. I see the geese flying south, increasingly insistent and urgent, wings beating in unison as they honk out their messages of warning to each other. Flee, flee, for cold days are ahead.

Sometimes, as I make the morning pilgrimage up to my daughter’s school, I bundle myself in my winter coat. It keeps me cozy in the early hours before the waning sun has warmed the earth. Other mornings, though, I resist. I am not ready! It isn’t winter yet! And so I wear my light fleece coat, wrapping my arms around myself and shivering a little, but taking a stand against the vanishing warmth of summer. I am defiant, even if my defiance makes me uncomfortable.

Leaves on Grass

Any Canadian can tell you that here in Vancouver we don’t have real winter. Real winter involves months of freezing temperatures and four feet of snow, packed down by heavy winter boots tromping across it for almost half the year. In Vancouver we have only the rainy season, which is colder and wetter, but not so frigid that it kills the grass or the blackberry bushes. Winter in Vancouver is green, but a different shade of green than spring or summer.

Newport Village Landscaping

In spite of my admission that I am a lightweight, and I do not know what it is to live in a land of ice and snow, I confess that winter carries a certain sadness for me. Or maybe not a sadness, really, but a heaviness. Darkness encroaches, cold mornings bite my nose, and life retreats to its hiding places, buried deep in the soil or inside insulated burrows or holed up on the couch in front of the television. We’re all just riding out the cold days, saving our strength and trusting that spring will come, and bring the return of the light.

Canada Geese Flying
Photo credit: Craig Bennett on Flickr

I’m certain there’s a lesson in the waning warmth and encroaching coldness. Perhaps it’s meant to teach us that all things come to an end – and that from that ending springs a new beginning. Perhaps it’s meant to teach us that we all need times of rest and retreat. Or perhaps it’s just a trick of physics, a planet tilted on its axis in just such a way that the life living upon it must adapt to changing seasons if it is to survive. Although, even a trick of physics holds lessons – intentional or not. I have an engineering degree, after all, and I spent years studying tricks of physics.

As I peek out my window at the red leaves on my blueberry bush and the mushrooms that have popped up in my back yard, and survey the pumpkins that my children so carefully selected for their jack-o-lanterns, I see vibrancy everywhere. I also see wistfulness. Winter is coming, and we’re celebrating the last bits of warmth and growth and colour. Soon the cold days will be here, but until then, we’ll pull out our brightest colours and adorn ourselves in all the beauty we can muster. Because hope survives, even as the trees shed their leaves.

What I’m Thankful for, 2011 Edition

Today is Thanksgiving Day here in Canada. It’s a time to eat pumpkin pie and cranberry sauce and turkey. Or maybe tofurkey and/or gluten-free stuffing, if that’s your style. It’s a time to gather together with your family and friends, mark the harvest, and appreciate the bounty all around us. But mostly, it’s a time to remember what you’re truly thankful for. It’s, you know, a tradition.

I like a tradition as much as the next person. Maybe even more than the next person. I think that using tradition and ritual to mark the passing of the year are excellent ways to connect us back to the natural rhythms of life, and create space for reflection. Or perhaps they’re just a good excuse to gorge ourselves and watch lots of football – both have a very important role to play. Either way, I’m taking a moment today to remember what I’m thankful for this year.

What I’m Thankful for this Thanksgiving

Hannah lost her two front teeth
Gap-toothed grins.

Sporting a pair of his big sister's undies on his head
Underwear hats.

Another shot of the cloves
The harvest from my garden.

A sign in the labyrinth at the Midsummer Fete
Little hits of inspiration.

Finished room from another angle
A paint colour that makes me smile.

Jon and Amber on the beach
20 years of us.

Gorgeous afternoon at the US border
Sunlight on the water

Green Moms at lunch
A chance to meet friends who live faraway.

Crafting my Life online class for moms find your purpose live with intention
Sharing the journey with some fabulous people.

Me and Nicole preparing for Run for the Cure
Running buddies

Now I hope you’ll join me. What are you thankful for right now? I’d love to hear – whether you’re celebrating Thanksgiving today or not!

What I Did on my Summer Vacation

Monthly reviews are my favourite tradition. Here’s how it works – every month I come up with some things I learned, and not always the easy way. Then, I ask you all to join in with some recent revelations of your own. And we all learn and grow and what-not. Or at least share a laugh at our own expense, because some of these lessons are both hard-fought and funny. And since Labour Day is almost upon us, and fall is in the air, I thought that we could expand this month’s review and talk about things we learned on our summer vacations. Call it nostalgia for my own back-to-school days as a child.

So, without further ado, here are some of my lessons from this summer.

Summer in Review

1. I learned the joy of a six-year-old on receiving her first summer reading club medal.

Hannah shows off her reading medal

2. I re-discovered the joy of having my very own blueberry bush, loaded with berries.

Blueberries!

3. I was informed that boots are always the perfect footwear choice for the park, regardless of the weather.

Rocking the boots

4. I learned that I can go away for three nights and my kids will survive, but they will never forgive me for having my photo taken with Cookie Monster and Elmo without them.

Hanging with Cookie Monster and Elmo

5. I found my running legs – and they were only a little sore.

Me, after going for my first run in almost 20 years

6. I found my dancing legs, too. They were in San Diego. It’s always the last place you look.

Getting my groove on at Sparklecorn

7. I participated in my first CSA program delivering weekly veggies, and I was amazed at the bounty.

My first CSA share

8. I learned that yarn-bombing is alive and well in Bellingham, Washington.

Yarn-bombing in downtown Bellingham

9. I discovered that if your kid sees you applying mascara, he will try to mimic you, and at the moment you least want him covered in mascara.

Jacob got into my mascara just as a reporter was due to arrive

10. I learned that no matter how many flavours of homemade ice cream your mother has in her freezer, nothing beats an ice cream cone from the stand at the park.

Summertime kids eating ice cream

What did you learn in August, or over your summer vacation? Please share! And read some of these fabulous monthly review posts to see what other people learned, or add your own:

Enjoying the Harvest

Yesterday I went on a food preservation bender. It’s blackberry season! It’s blueberry season! The first corn is ripe! Since yesterday was farmers’ market day in my suburban enclave, and since I went on a berry-picking frenzy on Friday, my pantry was stocked. It was time to put some away for the winter – or even just enjoy it now by adding sugar and baking it in pastry. So, while at home alone with two children on a Sunday afternoon, I took to my kitchen.

I made blackberry jam.

Blackberry jam

I blanched and froze corn.

Frozen corn

I made blueberry sorbet.

Blueberry sorbet

I baked blueberry pie.

Blueberry pie

Hannah was “the little chef”. She wore an apron. She took her job very seriously. Jacob licked the spoon. He did not wear an apron. He took his job very seriously, and his clothes have the stains to prove it. I sampled my first refined sugar in two weeks. I will write more about that tomorrow.

Today, though, I will rest. I think it has been well-earned.

Have you done any canning, freezing or preserving yet this year? Tell me all about it!

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